I hear you guys helping listeners every week and after all the news about Christie Brinkley’s divorce, I started thinking some more about this dilemma I’m having. Hopefully you can help me out. My boyfriend spends hours on his computer every night. He says he doesn't know why it bothers me because I've got my TV soaps to watch, but I only watch TV when he's on the computer. He chats with people from all over the world, including women. He denies it's anything sexual, but he won't let me see what he's saying. I know he looks at porn, too, and if I didn't make the first move we'd never be intimate. I'm 52 and he's 45 and I feel I'm too old to find another boyfriend. How can I get him to start paying more attention to me? Do you think he's having an affair? Thank you so much, you guys are the best!
Joanne from Brooklyn
So, what should Joanne do? Help her out by posting your advice!
Joanne- It is entirely possible that he may NOT be doing anything wrong, yet what he may be a little afraid or unsure of your reaction to what he IS doing online. If you are open and honest and COMMUNICATE that you are understanding of his time on the computer, he might be more apt to open up to you. People are more likely to be more honest and open if they know there won't be any negative consequence to their action. Good luck!! Theresa
Posted By: Theresa - Wednesday, July 16th 2008 @ 8:28am
Computer Guy
You can talk till you are blue. Bottomline, the internet and texting is today means fo extramarital affairs.
They deny until they are caught. By the way, myspace.com is not only for young people. Check it out and you'll see the person's friends and comments, Etcetera.. Change the password. See what happens
I have experienced it and still doing so now.
Posted By: Nancy - Wednesday, July 16th 2008 @ 8:28am
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It is entirely possible that he may NOT be doing anything wrong, yet what he may be a little afraid or unsure of your reaction to what he IS doing online. If you are open and honest and COMMUNICATE that you are understanding of his time on the computer, he might be more apt to open up to you. People are more likely to be more honest and open if they know there won't be any negative consequence to their action. Good luck!!
Theresa
They deny until they are caught. By the way, myspace.com is not only for young people. Check it out and you'll see the person's friends and comments, Etcetera..
Change the password. See what happens
I have experienced it and still doing so now.